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I specialize in:
Supporting Teens and Their Parents
During adolescence, we solidify our sense of self and begin to navigate through the challenges that prepare us for becoming young adults. During this time, it is critical that parents try their best to understand their teen’s behavior rather than simply react to it and try to control it or use it to teach. I help parents gain some perspective on what’s going on in their child’s mind, including the neurological changes that occur during adolescence.
I tailor my approach to the specific needs of the teen and the family. Whereas some teens are academically oriented, thrive in the classroom but suffer from anxiety and difficulties managing stress, others are more sensitive and artistic but may struggle to feel understood or to fit in with their peers. I work by developing rapport, using my relationship with the client to model alternative responses and teach methods including CBT, DBT and mindfulness techniques..
Along with 50 minute individual adolescent sessions, I also offer weekly Teen Support Groups.
I can help with any Adolescent Phase of Life Issues, including:
Depression • Impulse control • Anxiety • Bullying • Low self esteem • Substance abuse • Learning challenges • Self-destructive behavior • Parent-child relationship problems
The Treatment of Teens and their Families
Teens experience more stress today than any other time in history. I have watched over that last 22 years as the internet has literally changes their world. Stress wears on a person emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. “Stressors,” or psychosocial and environmental stressors, refers to people, places or things surrounding an individual and exerting excessive pressure. This pressure is internalized by the individual and experienced as worry, stress or anxiety.
The following are examples of stressors felt by teens today:
- School and homework
- The highest rate of parental divorce ever and step family issues
- Fitting in with the crowd
- Developing friendships
- Responsibilities beyond their age
- Pressure surrounding drugs and sex
- Emotional and physical abuse and
- Adjusting to change, such as two households or multiple schools
It’s no surprise that anxiety and depression are the most common disorders which are treated in private practice. They are the opposite side of the same coin. As one experiences increasing degrees of anxiety, the individual will ultimately feel hopeless and helpless, two common criteria for depression. You can think of depression as one foot in the past and anxiety as one foot in the future. Feeling regret or guilt from their past is beyond the capability of most teens to deal with, as is worry about what tomorrow is going to bring their way.
Trying to handle all the demands of adolescence often results in not only anxiety but also:
- Low self esteem
- Drug and alcohol use
- Non Suicidal Self-Harm
- Emotional eating
- Promiscuous sex
- Lack of confidence
- Family discord
Treatment for these conditions include medication, individual and family therapy, and group therapy. Over the last twenty plus years that I have been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, the number of teens on medication has increased substantially. Consequently closely with medical doctors and psychiatrists when appropriate. Some of the disorders being treated with medication include, ADHD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), Persistent Depressive Disorder (PDD) and Major Depressive Disorder, and OCD. My experience has shown me that although medication can be very helpful and in some cases necessary, medication along with a psychotherapeutic approach, such as CBT, may be a more effective means of treating the teenager and preparing them for life instead of just relieving the symptoms.
The treatment of teens and their families can often be expedited by family therapy. That is, medication, group therapy and individual therapy, when combined with family therapy, make up a multi-faceted treatment approach. I work to assess which modalities are appropriate at any given moment and consistently reassess in order to be sure that the best interest of the child is being served. Some teens may also require the therapist to interface with teachers or school counselors who may develop an IEP, or Individualized Educational Plan, for a teen who is struggling at school. It may also be necessary to have the teen evaluated by a psychologist who can provide a complete assessment of the teen in terms of mental and emotional capabilities or deficiencies. Needless to say, working with teens and their families can be challenging for the therapist, who not only needs to coordinate these treatment modalities, but who also will field many questions from anxious parents or teen clients in crisis.
Family therapy can include education for the entire family in regards to the client’s disorder. This can often help to normalize the view of the client’s symptoms, and ideally, instill a sense that the family is not alone, as others have had the same or similar experiences, and a new found feeling of hope. Family therapy is also a means of identifying the communication patterns, boundaries and roles in the family. There may be mutual or open communication between siblings and parents, but not with the client, who becomes the IP, or identified patient. This can result in permeable boundaries for the siblings and impermeable boundaries for the client. Thus, the client may feel shut off or alienated by the rest of the family. However, the siblings may be parentified, or given parental responsibilities at a young age, which can result in pressure on the whole family. And, within this system, roles may emerge. Members of the family are seen as the hero, scapegoat or mentor, for instance, and expectations of their behavior develop. Therapy helps to identify these patterns of communication, boundaries and roles and how the system itself may inadvertently support the symptoms of the client. This awareness can help to defocus the client, the identified patient, as the “problem” and reframe the family dysfunction as no one’s fault and not focused on only one member of the family.
Each teen is different and deserves a unique treatment approach developed by a skilled clinician. With these factors in place there is hope for families suffering from the symptoms and disorders experienced by so many of today’s teens.
When to Seek Help
Deciding to seek assistance from a professional is a difficult decision for many. However, there are some basic facts and situations that might help you to make that decision. Some situations require immediate, critical assistance (such as having suicidal or homicidal thoughts or actions including non-suicidal self harm) and others are less threatening but would benefit from guidance from a professional. Generally, if your teen has been feeling very stressed, depressed, worried and/or anxious over a few weeks AND it is beginning to interfere with his or her life and the usual coping skills have not been able to solve the problem, then it would be advisable to seek a professional therapist.